Sex & Psychology

Also known as Sex & Science

List all the experiments that I’d like to see done!

Examples would include:

  • A comparison of marijuana usage and alcohol with regards to sexual socializing and rape.
  • Benefits on dating intergenerationally in a polyamorous relationship.

One way to deal with religious repression of sexuality is to simply explore institutions that teach different messages. For example, science and logic, increasingly prove the connection between good sex and good mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health.

Working with sexually oppressed people is best done in private or small group settings. Using methods of alternative, creativity-based psychotherapy such as movement or art therapy, to open up a history of hidden anxiety.

Sigmund Freud was one of the earliest doctors of the mind who saw the connection between sex and psychology. On so many levels sex or sexual dysfunction shapes the nature of our basic human character. So much behavior is attributable to sex in some way, shape or form.

For example:

"Is having a bigger penis necessarily better?"

Liberated women seem to be in two minds about this subject. On the one hand, many respond with an enthusiastic "yes!" "I like the feeling of being completely filled" was the way one young lady put it. But many women also report that they can only "take" a large penis if they are very, very lubricated otherwise they feel discomfort and sometimes even pain. This was often the experience of one very well endowed Australian man who was in some of the same Tantric groups as me. He went through tubes of gel, lubricants and spit and still he was too much for many females. "Life is not like the porno movies where bigger is always better. I really have problems sometimes with my big dick." Or, as one woman put it, "I have to psyche myself up for a big one. In actual fact, I prefer a smaller one because they allow for more spontaneous sex." Those were the words of one experienced lady who I met on an ashram in India. And, according to most women, "Donkey Dongs" can "Forget it!" when it comes to anal sex.

Many women also prefer a smaller penis for oral sex because they can swallow it deeper. And therein lies one of the greatest pleasures of the average or less than average-sized man. When a woman sucks on a smaller penis it is easier for her to swallow it to the hilt. Few Donkey Dongs will ever enjoy the particular pleasures of that experience.


For example, in psychology and social behavior, there are differences between the genders. Agreeableness and neuroticism are 2 of the Big Five personality traits (the most studied and accurate personality theory). The theory identifies five factors:

The way the Big Five works is that everyone falls on the spectrum between the two extremes of each of the five traits. 

Because women tend to be more agreeable which means they are motivated to prioritize the group's well-being and maintain their relationships even if it means they aren't entirely happy with the outcomes. Generally speaking, even regardless of agreeableness, women tend to value relationships more than men so they are less willing to engage in behaviors - such as acting out on their egos - that risk damaging their relationships. 

Men are also more driven by testosterone - the dominance hormone - which makes them more willing to engage in a fight and more likely to feel the need to defend what they perceive as attacks on their personal power. They also tend to fear vulnerability more than women which often leads them to hide their true emotions by acting out in anger which is seen as more masculine - and often feels safer - than explaining their feelings.

More Big Five Data:

  • Women scored significantly higher on neuroticism, agreeableness, extraversion, and conscientiousness, differences in neuroticism were the most pronounced - women scored higher than men in 49 of the 55 nations studied.
  • Women scored significantly higher than men on agreeableness in 34 nations, only in South Korea did men score significantly higher on agreeableness than women.
  • Openness was more mixed - in 8 nations, men scored significantly higher than women, in 4 women scored significantly higher than men.
  • Other studies cited have theorized that the mix in openness is a result of the fact that women tend to be more open about emotion-related things while men tend to be more open about idea-related things.

For example, in psychology and social behavior, there are differences between the genders. Agreeableness and neuroticism are 2 of the Big Five personality traits (the most studied and accurate personality theory). 

Lowest agreeable: They are the cynics and nonconformists who enjoy doing things just because other people don't want them to. They are extremely hard to persuade and struggle to get along well with people. 

Highest agreeable: They are extreme people-pleasers who will always follow what other people are doing regardless of how they feel. They are determined to fit in and fear upsetting people. 

Lowest neuroticism: They are mellow people who only experience strong emotions in extreme circumstances and even then their emotional reaction may still be less than that of a high neurotic under normal levels of stress. They tend to believe that no matter what happens, everything is always fine. 

Highest neuroticism: They freak out over every little disturbance, experience strong and frequent mood swings, and can't handle stress. You always know when they are having a rough day, which is often. 

High Agreeableness: Positively correlated with altruism-related personality traits, more likely to make personal sacrifices to help others

High Agreeableness + High Neurotic (Low emotional stability) = They are far more empathetic and altruistic toward people they have an emotional attachment to compared to strangers and/or other individuals they don’t have a close bond with.  

High Agreeableness + Low Neurotic (High emotional stability) = Very forgiving, seeks to cooperate with everyone and rarely retaliates.

Men Vs. Women: Women are more likely to fit into the high agreeable, high neurotic group that is more empathetic and altruistic toward those they have attachments to.