Fighting for Equality without Victimization
1) Gender Equality benefits Everyone
In every country on the planet where women have more power, such as the Scandinavian countries (or Portland, Oregon), society is more eco-friendly and less violent. There tends to be less criminality, better sex, less overpopulation, less spent on the military, fewer people in jail. The most aggressive countries are those such as in Africa and the Middle East where masculinity rules unchecked.
Men have run the world for at least 5000 years and with wars, overpopulation, pollution, and mass extinction they have thoroughly destroyed it. Women have been cleaning up the messes of men since the time they were born. It's time they claim their fair share of power and clean up the entire planet.
2) Female Equality Benefits Men
The way that traditional feminism approached sexuality was to make it a 'zero-sum game'; the emancipation of women would come at the expense of men. In actuality when women are truly equal, men enjoy some major benefits.
The sexuality of a 'liberated' woman compared to a woman from a strongly patriarchal culture is very apparent. Plus men get to be true fathers rather than just 'breadwinners'. Custody should be shared in divorce as the experience in Denmark shows which leads to more logical blended families.
3) Emphasis on Empowerment, not Victimization
This is not to condemn those who want to focus on male speech. We understand that many in the feminist movement have been victimized by men. And they are quite right in their feeling. However, our approach is more empowerment oriented in a way that is inclusive and inviting rather than continually blaming.
4) A celebration of Gender Fluidity & Sexual Orientation
Younger feminists talk about sexual orientation, queer rights, bisexuality, and gender fluidity as part of feminism much to the exasperation of older feminists. However, younger women are completely right to go beyond the duality of two opposing genders. Feminism based on gender fluidity is ultimately more subversive. For example, when men feel less pressure to be 'men' with all that entails they can explore their 'feminine' side. Whether to become 'transgender' and completely change over or simply to wear feminine clothes and still be a straight guy it allows men and women to 'blur' the lines between genders. This is to the benefit of both as most people do not always feel purely as their gender. Men don't always want to feel like men and so too with women. The new feminism allows people to cross gender lines.
While there are some who choose to take hormones and have operations to change their gender identity, many can play with gender roles simply through behavior or dress. There are many men for instance who love so many aspects of being feminine, yet neither feel gay nor the need to be Trans. Such men can dress in women's clothes or they simply take up mannerisms, interests or habits that tend to be more identified with female.
5) Free Speech Feminism - Not Politically Correct
Many women have rape fantasies without wanting to actually be raped. Many women enjoy porn even though it is currently male-centric. The simple act of heterosexual sex is primal. It involves a woman opening up herself to be penetrated by a man. She is the receiver he is the thruster! The entire BDSM movement would be outlawed if sex were politically correct! Another non-PC idea is for a man to be 'penetrated' by a woman. Whether it's by her finger or a strap-on dildo, when a man knows what it means to be vulnerable and on the 'receiving end', it does more for his understanding of women than any amount of politically correct 're-education' can ever do.
6) Hedo Feminista Pillars of Female Power:
a. Intellectual Empowerment: One of the greatest barriers to equality is restricting access to education for women and girls. In many places in the world, girls are forbidden from attending school, not taught to read or write, and limited to only learning domestic duties. Though it is changing, many young women see business or current affairs as less feminine. We argue that female education and independent intellectual thought is a bedrock for personal empowerment and equality.
b. Economic Empowerment: Women make up a disproportionate number of the most economically disadvantaged on the planet. Still, many women have no choice but to rely on a man to provide for them. Being an EcoFeminist Entrepreneur is a great way to change the world and give yourself a meaningful job in the process.
c. Physical Empowerment: Ending violence against women is still one of the primary problems facing women worldwide. Law enforcement can only do so much to protect women and more needs to be done to encourage women's physical empowerment. What can we do to help women and girls feel more confident to defend and fight for themselves? One way could be to advocate self-defense and weapons training including mace, tear gas, pepper spray, guns.
Hollywood which is often accused of chauvinism, has cultivated a culture of female 'warriors' that gives support to models of strong women. Sexually and physically, for the first time in centuries, women are celebrated for achieving success by their own marksmanship and violent prowess! Movies like Wonder Woman and Hunger Games with strong female characters who are capable of defending themselves and yet retaining their 'femininity'. Judging by the attendance at the movies, both men, and women like these new 'Warrior Women' role models.
d. Environmental Empowerment: Endeavors that protect the environment also serves to help women. Across the world, women's work is disproportionally more connected to the earth and dramatically affected by climate change. Initiatives that improve humanity's relationship with Mother Earth also help to improve the lives of women and our attitudes towards the feminine. Connecting to nature is also empowering to women who in a modern world can often feel disconnected from nature sometimes out of fear of being perceived as less feminine.
e. Reproductive Empowerment: Providing women with the supplies and access to information that allows them to make informed decisions about their own bodies and reproductive health. The after-effects of a sexual encounter generally have far greater repercussions for women and unwanted pregnancy can seriously limit a woman's options in life.
f. Sexual Empowerment: Recent years have seen a growing movement against the severe disparity between men and women in terms of language and perceptions of sexual expression: from attempts to legalize sex work to SlutWalks around the world, many people are working towards shifting the balance of this double standard.
One of the great mistakes of the traditional feminist movement was to equate female sexuality and male desire with the 'objectification' and subjugation of women. While there is no doubt this happens, viewing female sexuality as a weapon in the war of the genders caused many men and women to shy away from feminism.
Sex-positive feminism emphasizes women as victors and not victims! In the 'Slutwalks' that happen across the world, the marchers tend to be young women. Their grandmother and mothers of traditional feminism often look on with disdain.
g. Legal Empowerment: Legal empowerment applies in part to each of the other areas previously detailed. When business lobbies on behalf of women or works to change the laws to move towards greater rights and equality for women, they would certainly then be classified as an ecofeminist enterprise. However, it is a fact that women do not have the same legal rights as much either in theory or in practice across much of the world.
Hedo Feminista Membership
As a Member, you gain access to our books and essays in their manuscript form as we prepare them for publication. Members are invited to be part of the discussions by offering constructive criticism or corrections. If accepted, members can receive credit for their contributions.
- Learn to create an ethical business supporting gender equality.
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Pleasurable Activism Publications
Hedo Feminista Essays: Politically Incorrect Discussions on Sex & Society
HedoFeminist Entrepreneur: Using business as a tool for gender equality
- Cougars for World Peace: Benefits to Society of Sex-Positive Feminism
- Warrior WoMan: Power, Principles, Pleasure & Peace for the Planet
- Talking Sh*t: Pleasurable free speech communication in a sensitive world